I Need Your Help

When has someone touched your heart by doing something surprisingly kind?  (Tip: this is a great question to ask others, especially when you’re looking for conversations at holiday parties and dinners) This question forms the basis for my next book, Good Samaritans: Stories of People Making a Difference.  This book is going to follow in the footsteps of the Chicken Soup for the Soul series insofar that it will be a collection of real stories that prove there is good in the world.  It will, however, simply be stories about people doing selfless acts of kindness.  A Good Samaritan refers to … [Read more...]

My Christmas Advice

My advice this Christmas is to laugh.  I know it sounds simple, but sometimes we forget to simply laugh at our mistakes and the silly things that happen to us.  Instead of getting angry at someone for something dumb they’ve done, try laughing.  Instead of getting mad at yourself for making a mistake, laugh at yourself.  You’ll reduce a lot of stress and unnecessary pain by simply laughing at the situation.  Laughing is not only good for you physically and emotionally, it’s a great way to connect with others and build relationship; unfortunately, it’s just not always easy, especially when we’re … [Read more...]

Is this why marriages last?

The more I talk to married and divorced people, the more I want to conclude that whether a marriage will last or break up is largely determined by the woman.  I’m not “blaming” women; I just find that men in a committed relationship are better at accepting things even if it’s unhealthy.  It’s like when a guy has something like giant boils all over his body and yet he claims, “I don’t need a doctor; I’m fine.  I’ll walk it off.”  Clearly, that isn’t the medical solution needed at that time, but it doesn’t matter.  The guy would rather pretend he’s fine.  The same thing can happen in … [Read more...]

Are you a good person? (a test)

Are you a good person? Most people say they’re a good person, but... um... no, unless your definition is simply: “I’m good because I don’t steal... except music and movies... oh, and I cheat on my taxes, but who doesn’t?  I also haven’t killed anyone, so I’m a good person.”  If this is your definition... that sucks.  Wow, you don’t steal and you haven’t killed someone; impressive... that was sarcasm.  What about people who have killed someone?  Does that mean they can never be a good person?  What if it was an accident or in self-defence?  Last week I wrote about encountering one of the worst … [Read more...]

The Worst Person I’ve Met in a Long Time

Last week I was introduced to the worst person I’ve met in a long time.  Guess what he does for a living? He’s a pastor.  Oddly enough, the day before I was introduced to one of the best people I’ve met in a long time.  Guess what he does for a living?  He’s also a pastor.  This pastor greeted my friends and I after a comedy show his church put on (www.flambc.org).  He was warm and welcoming in a way that is a good example of the loving spirit I wrote about last week.  The worst person, on the other hand, he was a good example of a bully, a jerk, a jerkish bully, a jerkish bully jerk... you … [Read more...]

True Love is…

When I was a child I remember being told that children don’t know what real love is, and that I wouldn’t know what real love is until I was older.  Now that I’m older I can see why I was told this... but I can also see why this is soooo wrong.  If you want to know what real love is watch children.  If they’re not yours you’ll need to ask permission first... trust me... learned that lesson.  Children know what love is, but adults know how to call the police.  What I’ve discovered is that typically adults know rules while children know love.  For instance, in my early twenties I remember helping … [Read more...]

My Good Samaritan

This week I’m going to brag about my fiancé.  If you know me, you know this is an unusual thing, especially when two weeks ago I was talking about the fight we had... bit of a switch.  No, I didn’t get in trouble for writing about our fight and now sucking up... she’s been too busy and hasn’t read it yet.  I’m actually going to brag about her because in the summer she displayed what it means to be a Good Samaritan.  The Good Samaritan is a term made famous by a parable by Jesus (Luke 10:25-37) where he describes what it means to truly love our neighbor: love without personal pride, judgement … [Read more...]

7 Tips to Save Money, Part 2

7 More Tips to Save Money, Part 2 Several weeks ago I posted 7 Tips to Save Money, Part 1.  Before we get to this week’s list I would like to reiterate part one’s first tip because it’s especially helpful with Halloween coming up: Consider what you already own.  Instead of buying a costume, which can be ridiculous, consider what you have around your place.  Things like electrical tape are good to write words, toilet paper roles and egg cartons can be easily made into things, and old outfits and costumes you or family haven’t worn in years can be reworked.  For instance, this year I found … [Read more...]

Breaking Down an Argument

The other night I had the joys of fighting with my fiancé.  No, we didn’t need emotional Band Aids or a cover story for the bruising we caused because we’ve learned how to properly share our conflicting thoughts... but it still stinks; fighting stinks.  In every fight there are two sides.  This doesn’t mean one of you is right and the other is wrong; it just means you both see one side being right: your side.  In this fight Alyshia and I simply saw things differently.  The fight started when Alyshia half jokingly said, “When you die I’m so reading your journals.”  I have a strict no reading my … [Read more...]

Charlie the Chair (a story)

Being a chair is not easy.  Every chair is torn between wanting to be left alone and wanting to be sat on.  You see, the more a chair is used, the stronger it becomes, which is really good, but chairs don’t particularly like being sat on because... well, who wants a butt in their face, especially certain butts that like to make certain noises?  One day a convention center received a load of newly made chairs, which you now know are a load of chairs that need to be worked in so as to build their strength.  One chair in this group was Charlie.  Charlie was built like all of the other chairs, so … [Read more...]